Cancer Diagnosis
A diagnosis of cancer can make you feel alone. That's why it's important to let the people you care about most know about your condition.
They probably haven't had the same experience. But they can still give you the love and support you need. Of course, it's
up to you to choose exactly who to tell. Not everyone in your whole family tree needs to know. You should also decide when
to tell them and exactly what details to share. Generally, the closer the relative, the more they should know. But that's
not always right for every situation.
Who and What to Tell
Whoever you tell about your condition can be a great ally. You will need them for support at times, and they will want to be
there for you. Bear in mind that your diagnosis will also have an impact on their life and their emotions. But that's not a
reason for you not to talk to friends and family about your condition. Just remember that the decision is yours. You should
also feel free to not tell certain friends or family members. Some people may have a bad reaction to the news. If that will
have a negative affect on your own ability to cope, then don't tell them.
One thing you should definitely do is to educate people. Let them know all about your condition. And about the treatment(s)
you're receiving. This way, like you, they'll know what to expect and when to expect it. They'll also have a better idea of
when you may need them most. It's also a good idea to select one person (your spouse, your oldest child, etc) who can come
with you on all your doctor visits. This should be someone who is mature and responsible. This person should also be able
to understand the information at least as well as you do.
Talking to Your Children About Your Condition
It's important to let your children know that you have a medical condition. Despite your efforts to hide it from them, they
can always sense when something is wrong. It's much better if they hear it directly from you. The fact is, if you can talk
about it with them, it will help put them at ease. Chances are, they will find out at some point, so it should come from you.
Of course, you should tailor the information you tell your children to their age level. Also, be sure to let them know that
you're taking action, and that everything is under control. Tell them that sometimes you may not feel that well, but they
shouldn't be afraid to talk to you. Let them know that they can help you with certain aspects of your treatment. If necessary,
you may need to get outside help (a friend, a family member). This is a good way to make sure your children's needs are being
met while you are taking care of yourself.